tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post1594464114411936120..comments2023-10-30T11:54:24.088-04:00Comments on A Little Bit of Life: PYHO - Should I Stay or Should I Go?Dihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14097805982872810142noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-15017318506852263462012-03-14T10:13:57.766-04:002012-03-14T10:13:57.766-04:00Di, I'm sorry you're going through all of ...Di, I'm sorry you're going through all of this! I have had to deal with similar issues. It can be so hard. I'm praying for you!Adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065409375913634202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-82150591413806473152012-03-11T00:16:13.580-05:002012-03-11T00:16:13.580-05:00I had no idea. I could tell you were struggling by...I had no idea. I could tell you were struggling by reading some of your posts. I just didn't know it was to this degree. It sounds like once Sept comes, let the house go and you and Jellybean move one to where ever you can with out your husband. I know he needs your help but your son needs you more, ya know. Keeping you in my thoughts.Nikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04533721407019744661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-78047501145381607372012-03-09T23:26:23.786-05:002012-03-09T23:26:23.786-05:00Oh dear, that sound just awful.Oh dear, that sound just awful.Struggling for Ever Afterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04177167587521083627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-85054748196170928172012-03-09T08:45:08.470-05:002012-03-09T08:45:08.470-05:00I have been meaning to shoot you an email but have...I have been meaning to shoot you an email but haven't had the time! I WILL though this weekend. I grew up with a father like this so I have some insight!krystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16591716925656494613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-45770357720561532252012-03-08T19:29:42.377-05:002012-03-08T19:29:42.377-05:00oh honey. Sending ALL my love to you as you go thr...oh honey. Sending ALL my love to you as you go through these difficult times and make such hard decisions.Jenn [ Crippled Girl ]https://www.blogger.com/profile/10991078382892747129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-48864879215456588422012-03-08T18:01:52.844-05:002012-03-08T18:01:52.844-05:00Sending you some prayers! I don't have any adv...Sending you some prayers! I don't have any advice except to take care of you and your little one!Brandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08127067375701755256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-61183180837096403012012-03-07T16:45:05.869-05:002012-03-07T16:45:05.869-05:00I had to make a decision to leave an abusive relat...I had to make a decision to leave an abusive relationship before. I had to put myself and my child first, and that's what the deciding factor was for me. <br /><br />Hang in there girl, I know you can do it. xoKimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13034271381748240025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-74562451009661640232012-03-07T16:39:34.444-05:002012-03-07T16:39:34.444-05:00I am so sorry that you're going thru this, yo...I am so sorry that you're going thru this, you must feel so terribly at loose ends with this whole situation.<br /> <br />I just don't know what to say, so let me just say this. <br /><br />Surround yourself with people you love, get good advise and follow your gut instincts, they are never wrong. <br /><br />It is truly my hope that you'll come thru this crisis OK, prayers and hugs.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10204165708189660644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-21801093807343925142012-03-07T15:39:01.070-05:002012-03-07T15:39:01.070-05:00Like Pam before me said, I think you know what you...Like Pam before me said, I think you know what you have to do, want to do, and what is best for both you and Jellybean. There may be some terrible financial issues to come, but you already know that is in the future either way. <br />As a person who has recovered from an issue- although it is an eating disorder- I can still talk of some of the journey. He has to want to get better for himself, for you, for JB, and it is DAMN hard. He may do better on his own as he does this, without trying to manage a family. I don't know, only you and he can answer these questions. But? You have us, and we care.Sara @ Domestically Challengedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10245599062507705190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-39578891332864870812012-03-07T15:34:35.568-05:002012-03-07T15:34:35.568-05:00Holy crap lady. I don't even know what to say,...Holy crap lady. I don't even know what to say, except that it sounds at least as though you are being level headed about this. I am SO sorry you are going through this. Take care of you and Jelly Bean as best you can, OK? Thinking of you...S.I.F.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15037271343194689612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-48026616188477049012012-03-07T13:47:11.290-05:002012-03-07T13:47:11.290-05:00As someone who has gone through this same thing (o...As someone who has gone through this same thing (other than mine was a porn addict and alcoholic),you know what you need to do. I struggled with leaving for a couple of years before I finally left. We had been married for almost 10 years, had 3 children and it was my 2nd marriage; I did not want to be divorced again. One day when I was getting ready to go to work, I told him we needed to talk. After I told him I was done and wanted a divorce, it was like this HUGE weight had been lifted off my shoulders and this amazing peace came over me. I just knew it was the right thing to do. I knew it would be hard, but I knew that it was not healthy to be there; for me or my kids. It was better for all of us to be in a single parent home than in a home with all the toxic crap that was there.<br />It will be hard, but you can do it. He cannot change because you want him to or because he is court ordered to, he has to do it for himself. And as long as he knows that everything will be the same, he will never change. My ex has never changed. He has gotten into so much trouble in the past 3 years, he is currently on probation and has violated it a couple of times and has spent (only) a couple of weeks in jail, got fired from his job,but still hasn't changed, because he doesn't want to. Our kids are also old enough now to decide if they want to spend time with him or not and they are getting to the point they don't want to be around him and he still doesn't change.<br />Know that you have a lot of support and people to talk to (from all the posts to you)and you won't be alone in this next part of your journey. xoPamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08724236291160399703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-31851624526762463322012-03-07T13:03:08.296-05:002012-03-07T13:03:08.296-05:00You're a really brave woman... I give you a lo...You're a really brave woman... I give you a lot of credit for your brutal honesty and courage in sharing your struggles. Jellybean is blessed to have you as his mommy. Please, take care of yourself and your baby boy.CurlyGirlMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02636461471614663124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-37223871914639130332012-03-07T12:59:03.919-05:002012-03-07T12:59:03.919-05:00You have such amazing statements of strength in th...You have such amazing statements of strength in this post! <br /><br />"which means I can do this...". That speaks so loudly and please don't lose the woman you've found in you. Protect her just as you would Jellybean.Duckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06195603673076986036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-20570317091752410832012-03-07T12:39:12.343-05:002012-03-07T12:39:12.343-05:00Man, and I thought my life could be challenging at...Man, and I thought my life could be challenging at times. I really hope things work out for you.Adventures as a Small Town Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06114959940534845209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-45632653733839041432012-03-07T11:23:16.953-05:002012-03-07T11:23:16.953-05:00Oh, girl.
I can't even imagine what you have ...Oh, girl.<br /><br />I can't even imagine what you have been going through.<br /><br />You have to make the best decision for you and Jellybean. xoShellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-46081426371957546122012-03-07T10:43:57.967-05:002012-03-07T10:43:57.967-05:00You have already answered your own question and do...You have already answered your own question and don't realize it. I know how hard it is, but at some point we have to decide that WE are worth it and deserve better. No matter how much money has to be paid to do it, no matter what struggles there may be....you already know what is best.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12179049138023130728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-74491099783794015252012-03-07T10:41:16.350-05:002012-03-07T10:41:16.350-05:00Wow... I remember your old post. I think you proba...Wow... I remember your old post. I think you probably know in your heart what you must do... But you will have to come to terms with it on your own. Good luck and I will be thinking about you. Big hugs. xoKristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16225291652604462660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-25537634724557559702012-03-07T10:20:14.302-05:002012-03-07T10:20:14.302-05:00You're an amazing woman, being a "single ...You're an amazing woman, being a "single mom" for a year, and having to go through all of that. Will be keeping you in our prayers, that no matter what happens you and Jellybean are taken care of & happy.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13698613016204055122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-27155299299837032922012-03-07T10:01:13.148-05:002012-03-07T10:01:13.148-05:00When you put a question like that out there, I bel...When you put a question like that out there, I believe in a way you already know the answer ...<br />Take care of you and your little bean. Your husband needs to get help to function as a human being respecting those around him ... before he can work on a marriage and especially being a Dad.<br />So glad you have your parents and their support, much love to you xxxThe Sisters' Hoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08797948652615263591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-59173108215896164742012-03-07T09:53:14.095-05:002012-03-07T09:53:14.095-05:00Dang girl I am so sorry that you are having to go ...Dang girl I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. You know it is like you said the most important thing is Jellybean. Sounds like your husband needs some serious help. I would not trust him around Jellybean. If he hit you then he could hurt Jellybean. I am sure you thinking about that. I am sorry it is so bad my friend :-(Rochelle@AFamilyofLooneyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04605268552555514174noreply@blogger.com