tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post3891585370441095785..comments2023-10-30T11:54:24.088-04:00Comments on A Little Bit of Life: Pour Your Heart Out - We see things differentlyDihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14097805982872810142noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-21922847432373812692010-10-21T10:43:28.453-04:002010-10-21T10:43:28.453-04:00I don't think you can make them help without t...I don't think you can make them help without them being bitter. <br /><br />Did he help before the pregnancy because if not it's going to be hard for him to change.<br /><br />I grew up that it was the woman's job to keep the house I look at the 20something mothers who divide jobs and think wow good for them. My husband will help out if I ask, but I have to ask. Plus I know to ask in a nice not bitchy way and hey as long as he gets it done on the day I asked I'm pleased.<br /><br />I don't know if any of this helps, but I'm thinking of ya.Renegadeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06163174457617218700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-55720035465504646032010-10-20T13:38:36.862-04:002010-10-20T13:38:36.862-04:00At my house I do the inside and hubby does the out...At my house I do the inside and hubby does the outside. I don't do yard work at all.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12179049138023130728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-51064973205133555762010-10-20T11:16:14.635-04:002010-10-20T11:16:14.635-04:00If you find an answer to this question please shar...If you find an answer to this question please share! My SO works construction and due to the recent weather issues has only been working 2-3 days a week. When I asked him if he could help out a little more around the house so that I wouldn't have to spend my evenings (after working a full time job 5 days a week) and weekends cleaning, cooking and taking care of three kids he said "well maybe I would do more if you ever lifted a finger to help." AHH WHAT! How the hell does he think everything gets done? The house cleaning fairy? OOOO It took everything in my power not to freak. I too told him that I would be more then happy to stop doing what I do if he didn't want to help out. SOOO frustrating!Momma0f3~1662~https://www.blogger.com/profile/05450144584976534431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-10261877627036602010-10-20T11:12:56.799-04:002010-10-20T11:12:56.799-04:00Nicki has a great point - I used to focus on what ...Nicki has a great point - I used to focus on what my Hubs didn't do and conveniently ignored what he did. I had to learn that we just had different priorities when it came to "chores". But I have also learned that if I do ask (tell) him that I need something done, he will do it - I just couldn't depend on him "knowing" what I wanted done or picking up subtle hints. He does not do subtle well...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-52494910073720774872010-10-20T10:10:03.823-04:002010-10-20T10:10:03.823-04:00Oh girl I have nothing here for you my husb always...Oh girl I have nothing here for you my husb always says he's going to help me with the house and boys and I may get a day or two and bam he's done. Since I work from home he thinks it's easy and I should have all this done too. I really am at a lost most days.<br /><br />I hope the helping continues!!Alexis AKA MOMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10829562970824293447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-7302301218268277402010-10-20T09:48:48.231-04:002010-10-20T09:48:48.231-04:00Hi there. Newly following from MBC! I have been ...Hi there. Newly following from MBC! I have been married for 18 years and I hear you! It can be very frustrating but it only got better for me when I changed my expectations and also when I started to really notice what he DID do. I used to trip in the door (if I could open the door at all) over all the shoes and toys on the floor blocking the door and I would flip out. He would tell me I was being such a bitch (duh! I almost fell on my ass, idiot!) because I didn't even notice he did the dishes. He was right. I always got so annoyed over the little things that I never saw the big picture. My kids are 12 and 16 now. The house us usually not clean. Not totally trashed but to the point where I would have to clean if someone was coming over. I want it clean at all times but it is more important to me that my family knows that I appreciate what they do help with and when I can't take it anymore, I just tell everyone to get off their ass and clean for 10 minutes straight and it is much better after! Anyway, good luck!!!Nickihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13877564312244508811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-22191805257628658322010-10-20T09:44:39.461-04:002010-10-20T09:44:39.461-04:00I don't have any advice either, because I am s...I don't have any advice either, because I am still finding my husbands socks crammed into couch cushions. I may kill him one day and that's all the evidence my lawyer is going to need to get me aquitted. If you find something that works, let me know!!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705231514972615443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-5416526420504718672010-10-20T09:43:45.820-04:002010-10-20T09:43:45.820-04:00You have to make your expectations very clear. I u...You have to make your expectations very clear. I used to get mad b/c dh wouldn't do the things that I expected him to. But, then I realized that I never TOLD him what I expected.<br /><br />It got better after that- and still, he does things on his own timeline- but it helps that if he says that he will do something, I will NOT do it. Even if it takes him a while to do it. It's actually made him do things faster, knowing that if he puts it off, he won't be off the hook.Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5074631023625053699.post-75559703936240054662010-10-20T03:24:55.547-04:002010-10-20T03:24:55.547-04:00I've got no advice for your friend, mostly bec...I've got no advice for your friend, mostly because I'm single and usually live alone... I have thought about this before though, and I'm pretty sure I am going to wind up killing the first guy I live with. It's pretty much inevitable...S.I.F.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15037271343194689612noreply@blogger.com