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Showing posts with label day care. Show all posts
Showing posts with label day care. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Breaking Up is Hard to Do - PYHO

At first it seemed like the ideal situation.

She brought me presents. Checked to see how I was doing.

Sent text messages. Made sure I was okay and happy with how things were going.

Then slowly things started to deteriorate. The communication was becoming less and less. She kept wanting more time apart. Making ridiculous demands.

I just wasn't happy with the way things were going. Especially with how much I was paying for her services.

So I started calling around. Making a few visits. Lining up other prospects.

I didn't want to go through with it but I was afraid the time had come.

I'm going to have to break up with Jellybean's daycare.

I interviewed and visited the place I am leaning towards. Joey still needs to go pay a visit. I really, really like their program and approach though.

The current day care isn't working for me for a multitude of reasons. Their open door policy really isn't one. You can't go in and actually be with your child. When I go at lunch I have to go outside with him. I end up nursing him in my car pretty often. I don't mind on nice days when we can go to the park but it's not the ideal situation. Meals are not included in what I pay so every night I have to scramble to pack his meals for the next day after finishing dinner, baths and bedtime. Her rate doesn't decrease until he is 2. I don't see lesson plans or know what types of activities he was working on that week or what I can reinforce at home. I've never gotten an incident report even when he's visibly bonked himself. There is always a new holiday they are closed for and no leniency in paying late if let's say he was sick for an entire week and I wasn't going to drive 25 miles to make a payment rather than wait for Monday. Also no option to use that week he was gone as a  vacation week despite the fact that I never used ours last year.

So the new place. I felt like I was having an affair. I snuck over at lunchtime with Jellybean to check it out. It was fate from the first moment. The owners name - also Diana. How could I not like it. 6 students to a teacher for ones and twos. No infants. They stress vocabulary, bilingual education and plenty of sensory activities - like what I do with him at home. Meals are provided. They have a uniform. The rate is $25 less a week through August. All of the closings match up with my days off of work. As soon as I mentioned I was still nursing Jellybean she immediately said "Oh well you can send milk or come in and feed him. Whatever works for you. I don't have a rocking chair anymore though." So I can come nurse him before nap time there and get him to settle down. Anytime I want. The more she talked and I visited the more I loved it. They go all the way through Pre-K with certified teachers. Lots of outdoor time.

It's hard to make a change. I know he gets attention and love where he is now but educationally I don't think they are doing enough. I feel like I'm always trying to make up for things he doesn't get there. I also hate that their open door policy really isn't. I need a place that will let me come in and get down on the floor and play with him a minute if he isn't ready to leave. Not rush me out the door with a see you tomorrow.

So on Monday - when his current day care is closed AGAIN for President's Day, Jellybean is doing a trial day at the new place. To see how we both like it. If all goes well - we will give our two weeks notice the next day at his current facility and make the break.

Because my job is to make sure he is getting everything he needs and sometimes that means drastic changes. Even if they are hard for both of us at first.

This post is linked up with Shell as part of Pour Your Heart Out Wednesdays.


Friday, March 11, 2011

Preparing for the Inevitable

I have started to prepare for the inevitable.

Despite all my attempts to avoid it and convice myself it wasn't going to happen.

That I could beat it, fight it or find a way around it.

But alas no rich uncles or winning lottery tickets have come my way so it looks like I will be returning to work after all.

Damn...that sucks.

On Wednesday I had the "pleasure" of resuming my annual exam with my OB/Gyn. Wonderful man, he really is but I could have held off on that again for awhile. The visit though gave me a chance to talk to him and air some of the things I have going on in my life behind the scenes. I wish I could share them here with all of you but I can't just yet. Trust me - that is a post that would be quite cathartic to get out and as soon as I can I will be writing it out. Talking to my doctor did help me to make some decisions and to decide how I needed to approach my return to work in a way that will be manageable for me. I can't just jump back into it like I haven't been gone due to what I have going on in the background. So my next step is to talk with my boss and see what we can work out. I already know that I am in fact NOT going to California which is a huge relief in itself for me. My tentative plan is to return to work April 4th. I will work half days in the office that week and half days from home so Jellybean can adjust to daycare. (Okay...so I can adjust too!)  After that I am hoping to work a modified schedule for a few months where I will leave an hour or so early and make up for it on the evenings and weekends working from home. I am hopeful that they will be agreeable to that arrangement. My doctor is in my corner willing to back me up if I need it. I hate being so vague with all of you but someday you will get the whole story!

Jellybean and I went by his daycare after the doctor appointment so that he could start to get to know his teacher. She spent some time rocking him to sleep and a large amount of time talking to me. I already knew it was the right place for us but after talking with her some more I am now certain. I'm planning on bringing him by a few more times before the big day and leaving him for an hour or so to ease us into it. I still hate the idea but it is inevitable. I will be nursing him before I go off to work, at lunch and then again when I pick him up. So, we're getting ready to resume life. I would say as normal but this is a brand new undertaking for us. Things are anything but normal but we are going to ride this wave and see where it takes us.

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