Wednesday, December 1, 2010

PYHO - Standing Up for your Principles

I had high hopes for writing a really great blog post today. Witty and insightful. The kind you share with friends. The kind I wrote before I was pregnant. Since I am pregnant - you're getting this post instead. Hopefully after Jellybean is here I will regenerate those brain cells he has drained out of me and start writing coherently again. If not there are enough mom's out there that read this that I'm sure you will all understand as my blog posts diminish into nothing more than sounds and sighs. It'll be fun!

So - with my utter lack of brain capacity and power (i.e. pregnancy brain) I was at a loss about what to write about when I finally pried my eyeballs open this morning. Then I realized the dog had pooped in 4 different places around the house. The hubby called as I was getting off my exit to let me know he had also peed in the house too. I'm not sure what I am supposed to do about that when both of us are at work but apparently this is my problem too. See yesterday's post for my feelings on that!

So being the emotional and exhausted third trimester wreck that I am I really just wanted to turn around, drive home and crawl back in bed. Then I remembered the great poster my dentist had up on his ceiling when I was there a few weeks ago.

(Side note - OB/GYN's take notes from my Dentists. I would much prefer to read that while you're poking around in there then stare at a neurotic cat or Anne Geddes baby prints)

And I remembered how I really wanted to do a blog post on every single one of his priorities. I'm not going in order though.

So today - I am going with "Stand up for your principles even if you stand alone."

I feel like I should elaborate on this but honestly my emotions on this one are pretty raw right now so I'll do a down and dirty synopsis. As long as your principles are in the right place then you have every right to stand up for them - other people's feelings be damned. I'm in a tough situation right now that is forcing me to not back down. I have backed down on it before and it has just turned into an ugly cycle that always brings me back to the point I'm at now.

Do I want to be dealing with this right now?
No, Not really.
Could the timing be any worse with the holidays and Jellybean arriving soon?
Probably not.
Am I going to let those excuses sway me this time?

So this time I am doing things differently. I'm not taking any excuses from this person anymore either. They will receive a packet of options from me today that lists the only choices they have to make things right and it will be up to them to make the change or not. The understanding there though is if the choice is not to make changes we will no longer have a relationship between the two of us.

What is different this time? I 'm not willing to take half ass attempts at changing that are really just for show to get me to not harp on the subject all the time.

This time its all or nothing baby and if I end up standing alone at the end -

That'll be ok.

Shell over at Things I Can't Say hosts - Pour Your Heart Out. It is a place to just get whatever is weighing on your heart out. Please be kind to all of the posters.


Jessica said...

I've had to delete an in-law or two from my FB lately. After 10 years I finally realized that I'm a grown up and I don't have to put up with anything I don't want to put up with. If they want to grow up one day that's great!

It's very liberating... a little scary at first.. the standing alone thing (even though I have support).. but very liberating.

nikeathena said...

It's difficult to draw those boundaries, but so liberating when we do. Wishing you luck as you establish boundaries and hopefully come to a place where you can both enjoy each other's company. If not, so be it.

Shell said...

Good for you! Honestly, every time I was pregnant, I had less and less of a tolerance for the b.s. and learned to stand up for what I wanted. Hope whatever your situation is turns out well.

Angie said...

It is very difficult to stand up for yourself - I hope you are able to stick to it. ((hugs))

Sara @ Domestically Challenged said...

Yay for you! It is hard to do, but it makes it so much better, doesn't it? You don't have time now, or especially when jB comes, to waste time on things that are not priorities!


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