Tuesday, November 29, 2011

How long are you planning on doing that?

So the questions have started.

To me and to Joey.

I get them on Facebook.

"Are you still breastfeeding?"

Joey got them from his family on Thanksgiving.

"How long is she planning on doing that?"

And the answer is always the same - whether its coming from me or from Joey -

until he is done.

My son is ONLY 11 months old (tomorrow). It is NO WHERE near time to wean him. The question irks me because you never hear some one ask - "Are you still feeding him formula? When are you going to stop that?" Formula apparently is not taboo but feeding my child as nature intended is.

We have decided, AS A FAMILY, that weaning will come whenever Jellybean decides he is done. That may be at 12 months, 18 or he may be well past three years old. We don't know what the timing will be but we do know that it won't be traumatic for him.

Right now? I am his comfort, his safety, His break when he needs things to slow down. He knows my smell. My touch. Just the right position for burrowing into me. He knows I will laugh if he latches on from up above or blows raspberries on me.

He is the one calling the shots here. Not me. He will decide when he is done.

And everyone else will just have to deal with it!


Anonymous said...

My sister stopped breast feeding after about 3 months because her boobies hurt too much, and was criticized for it. I think it's up to the MOm and everyone should mind their own beeswax! I hope the Fairy Hobmother sprinkles you with an Amazon coupon!

Tam said...

Way to go, Mama! He is very much a baby still and needs his Mama's milk. We're still nursing at 21 months and my family is also horrified. We nurse in private, and I'm happy to still have this bond with my son.

Missy L said...

Your decision to let him decide is what is best for him and there is no argument on that! My son just weaned at 21 months and I got so much criticism from people that I felt like I had to keep it a secret. I think it's horrible that society makes moms feel like that.

Natalie said...

Oh thanks for posting this. People act like breastfeeding is so taboo! My son is 13 months old, and I am still BF. But I get the same questions you do...I'm like what do you care? I hate that people try to make us feel bad about it.

Shell said...

So frustrating when people ask. If you made it to 11 months with no problem, why would you quit now?

My oldest was 2.5, my middle was 19 mo, and my youngest was 15 mo.

Sara said...

You go momma! It's YOUR decision. Love how you leave it up to the Jellybean! :)

Helene said...

It irks me to no end when people ask mothers that question. First of all, it's none of their business. Secondly, why make you feel as if you're doing something wrong?

Breastfeeding is one of the most natural things in the world. I wish I had been able to do it successfully but I didn't have enough milk so I had to supplement with formula and attach myself to a breast pump round the clock in order to keep what little supply I did have to the max.

I think it's amazing that you've been able to do it for this long! And I love that you're letting your son decide when it's time to be done with it. It's no one else's business! Go you!!

Sara said...

Stop by my blog Thursday, I'm giving you an award! If you don't get a chance to do the post about it, don't worry about it I know you're a busy mom!


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